There are a number of times when I stop and think what I would tell a 20 year old me or even a 40 year me if I had a chance. The down side of thinking this way is “Hey! turn left instead of right this time.” or possibly running into one of those “It’s a Wonderful Life” movie situations. If I could goo back and tell a 20 year old me to run and not get married to the mother of my children, then my children wouldn’t have happened nor would my gummys be around. The flip side of that coin would be to tell the 20 or 40 year old me that I could do better for myself if I did this or that or if I moved here instead of there. The possibilities are endless.
It’s a nice subject to use for a post but it’s also kinda sorta stupid in a way. All that it really comes down to is hindsight and everyone knows that hindsight is 20/20 and falls into that “Should/Could/Woulda” category. No, I think a better discussion would be to have with my kids and my gummys about what I learned the hard way to avoid or what I would do differently had I the chance to do it all over again; which I do at times. I think this is a mentoring conversation to have with your kids and even your grandkids where maybe you can help them avoids some of the potholes in life.
By all means learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them. And by all means interfere as little as possible with your kids and grandkids so they can learn and grow as well. But I wonder if it’s one of those built-in innate and automatic reactions to try to prevent them from getting hurt as well. Maybe it’s just me.